Family braces for a high holiday
If marijuana is still illegal in your state, then you should not allow it in your home or on your property.
Your younger relative is a daily user; his threat of violence if he can't use is an indication of his substance use disorder/addiction (and/or other mental health issues, which apparently are not being addressed).
You should convey to these family members: "Marijuana use is illegal in our state. We don't allow drug use or any smoking in our home. We are looking forward to seeing all of you, and we are giving you a heads up about what our boundaries are. Please respond and let us know that you understand."
Aside from the smoking issue, do not overly police this family member, or try to discern if he is high. If he threatens violence or is otherwise disruptive, you will have to ask him to leave your home; and, yes, his parents will have to face yet another consequence of their co-dependency.
I hope you can also urge his parents in the strongest possible terms to get help (for themselves). Nar-anon Family Group meetings or online support (nar-anon.org) could be a supportive and non-judgmental eye-opener for them.
Dear Amy: What happened to responding, "You're welcome" when you thank someone for their service? The typical response I receive is, "No problem."
While I am happy to hear that I did not cause them a problem (while performing their job), I do not appreciate the response.
I don't ever say anything because I think the next thing I would hear is, "OK, boomer."
Common courtesy is definitely a thing of the past.
-- Just a Boomer
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