Ask Amy: Fiance's new job inspires high dudgeon
Dear Wondering: Your husband should not lie. However, if he knows that these various family members of yours believe that he is peddling snake oil -- or a drug akin to heroin -- he will know in advance how they will react to his new sales job.
If they are as set in their opinions as you say, then his evangelism will mean nothing to them. During this transition period where many states are legalizing THC marijuana, there seems to be confusion about CBD products, which do not contain the "drug," and marijuana products which do.
I am one of many people who have discovered some benefits of using CBD (in my case, for insomnia), but - if people don't accept or understand these possibilities, then they have the right to reject them.
He gets to make a choice about whether he cares about their opinion of his profession. I suggest that he should enter these family conversations feeling confident and good about what he is doing, and not attach too much to their reactions.
Dear Amy: Should we go to my nephew's wedding -- even though his enraged parents (my in-laws), never showed up for our kids' weddings?
(However, to be fair, our nephew was always there for our kids.)
We just can't decide whether we should attend this celebration.
-- Upset
Dear Upset: You don't say why these in-laws are so enraged, but you sound pretty steamed, yourself.
Yes, you should attend your nephew's wedding. His wedding is not about his parents, but about him. The way to start to turn around a toxic family dynamic is to show up for family members, and behave differently than they have behaved toward you.
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