Friend with benefits doesn't show interest
Dear Dumb: Even if you could possibly turn this around, should you?
No.
Don't hope that he will forget about the way you've acted. Promise yourself that you WON'T forget about the way HE'S acted.
If you enjoyed this "friends with benefits" relationship, then I'd suggest that you should keep on keeping on. But you don't enjoy it. "Steve" is not particularly nice to you. He has actually told you that he is not into you, longer-term, and longer-term is what you want.
I actually give this guy some points (OK, one point) for honesty. So why don't you believe him?
You should pour your romantic and dramatic energy into this breakup.
Make yourself a wall calendar. Draw a big red X through each day that you are successful in not contacting him. Write yourself little affirmations in each daily square. Watch "Swingers," "Fever Pitch," or whatever makes you smile. Listen to Joni Mitchell, Rihanna, Adele, and Kelly Clarkson. Join a gym or yoga class. If he contacts you, don't respond. Don't.
Schedule little outings and activities for you to do that don't involve "Steve." You need to meet new people, have new conversations, and find new things to do. With time and TLC, you will reap much greater "benefits" than you had with this relationship.
Dear Amy: I am a 77-year-old woman. I am still working and very active.
I am often addressed as "young lady" by waiters, tour guides and all kinds of other public servants and, curiously, the person saying this is always a man.
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