Friend's degenerative disease might beg disclosure
-- Gagging and Guilty
Dear Gagging: You sound like a fun bunch.
If there is a way for you to spend time with your father on his own, then you should make every effort to do that. If that is not possible, then yes, you must endure this terrible person because she seems to be the conduit to your father.
If he is being mistreated, then you should do much more than you are doing, which, from your account, is nothing. Stop thinking and talking about the wife and the money. Advocate for your very frail father.
Dear Amy: Responding to "RBF," who didn't like to be told to smile -- I tell people to smile because if you smile, you will feel better.
I smile as often as possible, even when answering the phone. Also, if you keep smiling, people will wonder what you are up to.
Try returning a smile and see how that makes you feel.
-- Do It
Dear Do It: You should try NOT telling strangers how to hold their faces -- and accept them as they are. You'll feel great!
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