In-laws are too self-focused to notice pregnancy
He recently did this for the third time, even though I explained my unease with this arrangement.
He doesn't rent a car and expects me to drive him around and come up with things to do while he's here.
He brags about being a tightwad and how he NEVER drives.
How do I dissuade him without hurting his feelings?
I am a single female, by the way. We were never more than friends and -- even then -- not very close friends.
-- Put Upon
Dear Put Upon: Please forward me your contact information, because I could sure use a vacation, and you sound extremely accommodating.
My point is that social bullies need willing victims.
Your "friend" isn't behaving like a friend, and he is counting on your inability to deliver a truthful and proportional reaction to his imposition.
Please, learn to say no. An effective "no" need not be embellished with details or excuses. You simply say, "No, you won't be able to stay here. But let me know if you come to town and maybe we can have dinner while you're here."
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