Formerly chubby hubby seems too unhappy
Yes, you miss your chubby hubby. That guy seems to have disappeared. The person who has emerged sounds depressed. I think it's possible that your husband was "self-medicating" some underlying issues through overeating. Now that he doesn't have this crutch, these issues have surfaced.
He has taken charge of his physical health. Now he needs to concentrate on his mental health. A few sessions with a professional counselor who specializes in working with men could help him to put his choices, changes and challenges into perspective.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have two daughters -- 40 and 37 years old.
The oldest is living in the home she owns. The youngest, "Angela," came back to live with us seven years ago after her divorce.
At that time, she said she would pay us something for rent. "Daddy" wouldn't let her, even though she has a good job and makes more than we do.
I finally had enough and asked her for one-third of the household bills, which she deposited into our account immediately. (My husband actually backed me up.)
Now she is being rude to me. She said she is resentful toward us for living here. She says that when she moves out she is NEVER coming back, except for holidays.
She had no housing expenses for six years (except her personal bills), and now she is resentful of US?! I am heartbroken and having trouble sleeping. I just retired from my job of 30 years, and my husband is trying to retire but feels he can't. I know I didn't do anything wrong asking her for rent, but can I smooth this over? Should I let it go?
-- House Bound
Dear Bound: You needn't let this go. You must let her go.
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