Family worries about sister's fiance
However, given what you have learned about this guy, I can understand why you want to give this event a wide berth. If so, you should be straightforward with your sister: "Unfortunately, because of serious concerns we have about 'Bob's' history and character, we aren't able to support your choice to marry him. Attending the wedding would be hypocritical on our part, and we regret that we won't be there."
If you choose to attend, definitely find something else for your daughter to do that day. Under no circumstances should you place her in this man's path.
Dear Amy: I'm the oldest of my siblings. We all have the same mother, but different fathers.
Last night while combing through Facebook I was reminded of how they only call, come around, and/or include me when they want something.
I got to wondering about why this dynamic exists. I also wondered what you would think about it.
These questions ran through my head: What does family mean to these people?
Why do family members only call or include me when they only want something from me? Should I even call them family? Or should I call them something else -- or not call them anything? And lastly, how should I react to their behavior? What is the correct way to handle this?
-- Odd Member Out
Dear Out: If you are the oldest of your siblings, all with different fathers, it seems probable that your home life might have been challenging or chaotic.
As the oldest, your siblings may see you as a parental figure; someone to turn to when they want or need something.
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