Husband's deep research into webcomic isn't funny
I have gone to the owner multiple times; they are aware of the situation but have chosen to avoid the issue of dealing with this person, as she is a high earner.
I am not the only employee experiencing this. I can't leave, as it is hard to find another job in this field.
-- Desperate Bride
Dear Desperate: You present a number of reasons why confronting this bully could be hard on you, but what choice do you have?
You need to break up with her.
Say (in person, privately), "Our relationship seems to have disintegrated. I'm going to let you off the hook in terms of being in my wedding. Moving forward, I'd like to focus on maintaining a peaceful professional relationship."
After that, stay calm. Don't discuss your wedding at work, don't send her an invite, minimize your interactions with her, document her unprofessional behavior and push back when she attempts to bully you.
Dear Amy: "Concerned in Colorado" was upset about her work supervisor's criminal history. But then she also said she checked records "in the state where he lives." They are obviously in different locations, so why is she so nervous?
You missed this obvious fact!
-- Eagle-Eyed
Dear Eagle-Eyed: Colorado borders seven states. Many people live in one state and work in another. "Concerned" noted that they work in the same office.
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