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I also have a few foods I just plain don't like.

My partner will sometimes put all of these foods -- the one I'm allergic to, and the ones I don't like -- in the same category. He complains that he can't eat my allergen, but also these other foods as well. I end up feeling like it is both my fault for my allergy and the other few foods that repulse me.

I try to make sure we eat delicious meals from all over the world. I just get so upset when he starts talking to me about food in this way. He also gets upset.

I don't care at all if he eats these things without me, but he acts like he can't and that I am to blame. How do I talk about this constructively with him?

-- Not Hungry

Dear Not Hungry: I don't see the need for a constructive conversation here. Your guy is being a baby. You should say to him, "Honey, aside from my one allergy, no one is stopping you from eating anything. Go to the store, get some recipes, and go crazy. You have my blessing!"

Dear Amy: Oh, I saw red when I read the question from "Frustrated," whose guy was keeping her -- and their children -- a secret from his other (older) children. Thank you for pointing out how damaging this is, not only to the adult, but especially to the children.

-- Red Reader

Dear Red: I don't often recommend that people leave a relationship where there are children involved, but ... I think she needs to get out.

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