Dad's feelings are hurt when kids seek bio family
Dear Anti-Potluck: I'm like you -- when I entertain, I like to do all of the cooking. But for some people, sharing the work is the only way they can manage to host a dinner, and there is nothing wrong or rude about asking others to help. The only thing your potluck friends should do differently is to inform you before you accept an invitation.
If you truly don't ever want to be invited to these hosts' house ever again, you could be ruthlessly honest about it: "This is a little embarrassing. I know I've already accepted the invitation, but I didn't realize this was a potluck when I accepted, so now I'm going to decline. I'm sorry. I just don't enjoy bringing part of the dinner when I'm invited somewhere."
You can expect those invitations to dry up as quickly as my mother's chicken cacciatore.
Dear Amy: I'm responding to the question from "Too Soon in Chi-Town," about the couple who had met in AA and were now dating.
Your answer was OK as far as it went, but the first line of your answer should have been, "What does your sponsor think?"
-- Anonymous
Dear Anonymous: You're right! Thank you.
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