Man wonders about disclosing affair
-- Cheated Upon
Dear Cheated: If you believe these various reports amount to confirmation, and if your experience tells you that informing the wife is the most ethical choice, then you should find a way to tell her.
This is most tricky when the person in the know is a friend of one of the affected parties. You are not. You don't seem to have a stake in the outcome. So yes, I agree that you should inform her.
Over the years of writing this column, I have heard from many people who, like you, were in marriages with unfaithful partners. All reported that in retrospect, they wished someone with awareness of the affair had told them, and that being the last to know was a stinging humiliation.
Dear Amy: I am a female college freshman this year. During high school I discovered I am bisexual, but I've never had any relationships.
This fall I started hooking up with a girl who lives in the dorm next door.
It started out as platonic -- just two friends having fun -- but now I am starting to feel more for her.
I've talked to her about it and she said she wasn't sure how she felt about me, and that she has always had trouble identifying how she feels about people. I told her I wouldn't press her and we both agreed we are still content with our physical relationship.
How do I navigate this? I know I would like to go out with her, but I don't know if this is even possible.
I don't want to get hurt. Is it better to just cut things off completely now, or should I keep having fun?
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