Man wonders about disclosing affair
-- Queer and Confused
Dear Queer and Confused: You are having a fairly typical experience for someone at your age and stage. And I'm here to tell you -- it will hurt. A relationship out of balance always hurts.
You've been honest, and you are accepting the limitations your neighbor has placed on the relationship. I can't tell you definitively to stop seeing her, but I will tell you this: Your experience with her has already peaked. Your continued involvement will require that you compartmentalize your feelings. And then you'll arrive at this question: Do I want to be with someone who doesn't know how she feels about people?
And you will realize that you deserve better.
Dear Amy: "Call Me Mom" was upset that her 40-year-old son had started teasing her by calling her by her first name, even after she had asked him to stop.
I agree with you that this is mean. I have had success, albeit with co-workers, to remedy name games by calling the offenders by names other than their own.
Maybe Mom needs to start calling her son "Baby."
-- Don't Call Me Lester
Dear Not Lester: I could think of a few choice names for this particular meanie.
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