Husband is spinning fiction at writers' workshop
It is inappropriate for people who are in a committed relationship to complain to a new acquaintance about their marriage and sex life.
At the very least, this level of instant intimacy indicates that she is indiscreet and doesn't respect boundaries. At the most, it signals that she is available and interested. And yes, disclosing that she is already having an affair signals that she is able and available.
Your husband also has a problem with boundaries. He should not develop an intimate friendship with another woman. This intimacy interferes with his relationship with you.
He also should not exploit this person for the purposes of "writing his novel." First of all, this is an old, tired and disingenuous excuse for his own behavior. (I'm not buying it, probably because I hang around with writers, and writing workshops are notorious for launching creativity-fueled hookups.) Only rank amateurs -- or scoundrels with gullible spouses -- ply this particular fiction.
And here's some writing advice for your husband: Writers are story-thieves, but it is deeply unethical to use someone else's life experience for your own novel, certainly without their permission.
Dear Amy: I am wondering -- why do people choose to have children?
I am 27 years old and in a wonderful seven-year relationship with a lovely man my age. We hope to get married in the next couple of years.
We are both on the fence about having children. It is not a matter of means, nor do I think we would be poor parents.
Every time we ask parents for their opinions, we are told how difficult, expensive and tiring it is. Meanwhile, we are being badgered by both sets of our parents for grandbabies, and many of our friends are having children.
In a society where we have more choice than ever about whether or not to procreate, why do people choose to do so? What do you recommend?
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