New teacher wants to run from the classroom
During the period we were broken-up, initially I tried to reconcile, but she told me I should date other people because she was no longer in love with me. I did date other people, but she came back into my life when she caught wind of a girl I was starting to see regularly.
I loved my ex, so I took her back. She said she didn't mean it when she said she didn't love me anymore and that she came back because she did actually still love me. I don't trust her now. I'm suspicious about her real reasons for reconciling.
I kept all the contacts I made while we were separated, and now my girlfriend is mad about them. I am thinking I made a mistake in reconciling. What do you think?
Ambivalent
Dear Ambivalent: It seems somewhat likely that you and "Mari" are experiencing a sort of faux-reconciliation. This happens when exes reenter one another's orbit, drawn by regret, jealousy, mutual attraction -- or one too many cocktails.
You two need to decide if you are going to seriously commit, or simply dance for a while. Her motives to get back together might be suspect, but your choice to hang onto your previous contacts and basically bring them into this relationship speaks to your own lack of commitment. This is gamesmanship, not commitment, and it calls for a serious conversation.
Dear Amy: "Reluctant Aunt" was upset to be invited to her nephew's wedding! My fiance and I are planning our wedding now, and some of our guests are being pretty demanding. We have been completely unprepared for the rudeness on display.
Already Exhausted
Dear Exhausted: Strap in; weddings tend to confirm philosopher Sartre's axiom: "Hell is other people."
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