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Is there an appropriate way to acknowledge this and at the same time, not have the bride and her family feel badly for not including me?

-- Uninvited in LA

Dear Uninvited: Your question didn't land quite where I expected it to; you are facing this exclusion with no hurt feelings, and are only worried that congratulating the couple will draw attention to your exclusion.

It would be kind of you to send a card (and gift, if you want). Keep your message warm: "Congratulations to both of you! I'm very happy for you, and look forward to seeing you on my next trip east..."

Dear Amy: "Maybe Auntie" wondered about the DNA parentage of her brother's girlfriend's pregnancy. It is possible to test DNA in utero, and this woman should definitely get tested.

 

-- Informed

Dear Informed: While DNA testing in-utero may be possible, submitting to this testing is up to the couple, not the aunt.

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