Employee frets about overdue job change
Dear Worried: I don't think you should sort through these conflicted feelings. I think you should just make a decision to change jobs, and then do so.
You have put in a respectable seven years with this employer. Your professional goals and skills have outpaced both your job satisfaction and your compensation.
The environment at your current job seems to have broken your spirit. The antidote to your insecurity is not to tie yourself into tighter knots to please a boss who can't be satisfied, but to find rewarding work elsewhere.
Leaving will not be easy. You will be facing the unknown. But the job market right now is good, and ultimately you will grow more by leaving than by staying.
Dear Amy: I am a single man living on my own on the West Coast. My immediate family live on the East Coast, where most of the extended family live.
Because I have been on my own for a long time and live far away, they have naturally all been together for holidays etc., over the years.
My sister and her whole family and my parents were invited to a cousin's wedding on the East Coast. I was not.
This is not, by the way, due to any hard feelings in the family. I am not really hurt at not being invited, as I don't feel especially close to the bride due to the distance between us and an age gap.
That having been said, it feels strange to ignore this happy occasion.
Photos will be on Facebook and Instagram and my sister will be attending, so it is obvious that I know about it.
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