Man frets about mom's reaction to girlfriend
In terms of inviting your childhood friend -- this invitation might be your mother's way of throwing a wrench into the proceedings. It could also be her way of indicating that she understands you are no longer committed to the religious order. Remind her, "I'll be home with 'Sasha' and I'm not particularly interested in seeing this other friend while we're home."
Dear Amy: I'm 25 years old. Everyone my age seems to be getting engaged, having babies or both.
I do plan on getting married to my boyfriend at some point.
Why do I, as a guest, a complete third party who had no say in the engagement or pregnancy, now have to give them my money?
The idea of a baby shower blows my mind. Someone decides to have a baby, throws a party and expects people to provide gifts (aka baby supplies) for the child that they decided to have?
Do I get to throw a dog adoption party asking people to buy me gifts (aka pet supplies) for my dog?
A couple decides to get engaged, but now throw a party where they expect me to come and contribute my money so that they can pay for their wedding (as well as providing a wedding gift)?
The reason I am not getting married now is because I am saving so that my wedding is completely funded by me. I do not think it is fair to ask people to attend MY wedding and have to spend their own money on a useless wedding gift.
Why don't people wait until they are financially able to foot the bill instead of asking people to provide them gifts/money so that they can afford to put on these weddings or have a baby?
-- Fed Up
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