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We've all agreed that we don't need to be joined at the hip on this trip, so why do I need to babysit them in a crowded airport when I've paid good money to use the lounge?

-- Minding My Business

Dear Minding: Your friends aren't banging on the door of the business lounge, insisting that you let them in. So don't blame them for traveling the way they want to travel.

Your wife might genuinely want to hang out with this other couple. When you're with friends on an adventure, crowded airport terminals don't matter as much.

If skipping this quieter experience means that you are going to be grumpy and unpleasant, then by all means -- kick back in the business lounge, and leave the hoi polloi to their noisy pleasures. Tell your wife and friends that you'll meet them at the gate.

Dear Amy: Responding to the question from "Trying to Mend," regarding the experience of being sexually abused as a child, I am a police detective and have investigated cases of child sexual abuse for many years.

I know from experience that sexually abused children almost never report the abuse until they are adults (if ever), especially if the abuser is a family member. It is typical for them to incorrectly feel that somehow they were to blame for what happened.

I also wanted to share that acting out sexually by being promiscuous, along with other high-risk behaviors, including drug and alcohol abuse starting in puberty, is pretty much textbook behavior for many of these victims.

Your advice to her (or him) was spot-on. Intense self-care and counseling is key.

-- Concerned Detective

Dear Concerned: Thank you for your insight, and for your work with survivors.

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