Husband loses wife to Snapchatting soulmate
Dear Amy: My wife and I have been together for 15 years. We have three children.
I would describe our marriage as normal; we've gotten into arguments, but things always tend to bounce back to normal after a few days. There has not been any abuse of any kind. Our house is a healthy one.
We agree on all the major topics, such as politics, religion, money and child-rearing.
About a year ago, she started a new job. After an argument, she said that we aren't soulmates, that I don't "get" her and that she thinks we should get a divorce.
In 15 years, she had never mentioned these things to me, so it came off as a red flag.
After some snooping, I found out she was Snapchatting with a (male) co-worker. I was devastated. I immediately went into save-my-marriage mode. We went to counseling, I worked on the aspects of my personality that she didn't like, and changed some behaviors. She promised to only maintain a professional relationship with the guy at work.
She has since canceled our counseling because she says it's not working. She has moved out, and come to find out she's been lying to me because she never stopped talking to him!
After looking through our cellphone bill, she would call him anywhere from two to six times a day, almost every day. When I confronted her, she claims he is only a friend, their conversations just flow and that he's a good sounding board, since he doesn't know our entire history. Am I a fool to believe this?
She says we should break up because of our past and brings up all of our past arguments. But I am willing to work on those things and try to become a better person, husband, and father. Is she just using our past as an excuse to be with this guy? I've lost weight, have trouble sleeping and eating and have gone on antidepressants.
-- Feel Like a Fool
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