Husband loses wife to Snapchatting soulmate
Dear Feel Like a Fool: Brother, I have walked in your shoes. I'm very sorry this is happening to you and your family. But it will get better for you.
Your wife says she has given up on counseling because it "isn't working." The reason counseling isn't working -- is because she does not want it to.
At this point, I hope you will focus on your own health and healing -- and on the emotional health of your children. In short, you cannot control you wife's feelings, or her actions. You do you.
A groundbreaking book which may put some of this behavior into focus for you is: "Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity," by Shirley P. Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli (2004, Atria Books). This classic "how to" on how to rebuild a relationship will put your wife's behavior into context. It also offers a roadmap to recovery, which might work for you (and your wife, if she is willing to try).
Dear Amy: I'm a 60-year-old single woman who recently lost a friend of 40 years to cancer.
My friend's husband, "Jack," 64, is a wonderful man and misses her terribly.
Jack and I spoke at some length at the memorial service and I sensed he could use some companionship.
He invited me to return to the memorial service venue after I took my mother home for what he said would be "the inner circle after-party." I didn't return, but now regret it, and want to contact him.
What is your guidance regarding a woman reaching out to a recent widower to offer her company?
All our mutual friends and family are watching; a misstep would cost me dearly.
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