Long marriage now seems thoroughly broken
With an open bar, your friends seem determined to get their guests good and drunk. For the money they are spending on alcohol, they could instead buy a few salads for their guests to enjoy along with the sandwiches.
I don't think "potluck" weddings are a huge trend, but they do happen. For hosts to throw one successfully, they should put a lot of thought, planning and effort into it -- giving guests some direction, cuisine-wise, asking guests to provide ingredient lists, and providing the means to keep hot foods hot and cool foods cold. They should also provide designated help to take in food as guests arrive, set it out and then take away and wash empty containers.
You should not count on any of this happening.
If you decide to attend this wedding, yes, you should bring a dish to share. In terms of the food safety risk, you should always try to find out exactly what you are eating, and if in doubt, only eat my Aunt Lena's molded green salad. It contains both pineapple pieces and marshmallows!
No, your potluck offering does not "count" as your wedding gift.
Dear Amy: "Worried Dad" described his son-in-law, a physician, as being increasingly absent-minded and accident-prone.
I have ADHD, and much of what was described in this letter would apply to me. People with ADHD are often misdiagnosed.
-- Reader
Dear Reader: Many readers added their speculation to my own. My concern was that this man's symptoms seemed to be getting worse.
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