Pool parties lead to pilfered property
My husband didn't need his former family or siblings' approval to write what he did.
I would never have changed his or anyone else's last requests.
I'd like to know if other readers have gone through similar situations like this and how they handled it. I've never seen this subject addressed in your column.
-- Standing Proud
Dear Standing: My daughter held a job working for several newspapers, helping people to place death notices. According to her, it was not uncommon for people to leave out family members in these notices. Sometimes, two obits would be submitted for the same person -- each mentioning different family members.
I disagree with your husband's choice to leave out the names of his own children, in part because these notices can be seen as documents of record.
It also achieves his ex-wife's goal, which is to keep these children away from their father. However, you've carried out his wishes, and you shouldn't have to justify it.
Dear Amy: Lately, you seem to be publishing "trashy" questions in your column. What gives?
-- Fed Up
Dear Fed Up: I don't classify people's problems as either "trashy" or "classy." Nor have I noticed a remarkable change in the queries sent to me. Every genuine question deserves a genuine response.
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