Brother uses elder mom's funds for his own purposes
One way to move on from this is to be open about it now. Why are you protecting your brother from a natural consequence of his crime (i.e. your disillusionment and disappointment)? Is knowledge of his actions so dangerous to your own belief system that you must continue to stuff it down? I hope not. The path toward forgiveness runs right through the heart of his fallibility.
You and your siblings should have a family meeting (with your mother, and with or without your brother). Now that everyone knows about this theft, you should handle it as a family. If you don't want to pursue this legally, one obvious solution would be to deduct the amount your brother stole (plus interest) from any inheritance he might receive. Maybe his share of the inheritance will cover the amount he stole. If not, he should pay the balance to his siblings. If he assumes responsibility, makes amends and asks for forgiveness, he should receive it. So far, he does not seem to have done his part.
Dear Amy: My daughter is a stay-at-home mother with an 8-month-old child.
She is a great mother and I am very proud of her.
She and her husband allow their very large dog to "clean up" the high chair or walker after the baby has eaten, by licking it "clean."
They think it's cute. I think it is disgusting. They do not otherwise clean the items for the next use.
I am by no means a clean freak, but this is gross.
I will not allow this in my house (they have not yet brought the dog with them).
I voiced my surprise and dismay the first time I witnessed this, and just sprayed the items with cleaner after the dog was done.
I have not said anything else about it. I understand it is their home and their rules.
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