Woman must reset her dorkometer for dating success
The bigger question concerns your own dating behavior. Read India Kang's book, "How to Date!: Single Girls' Dating Manual (2016, YouCaxton Publications).
Dear Amy: A co-worker and I share a good friendship. One of the things that bonds us is that we have both been through prostate cancer. While I am still clear, it looks as though his is coming back.
He is OK and has the support he wants and needs from his family.
Our challenge is a desire to help others.
We would like to do what we can to help alert other men to the need to monitor their health and be informed. While each of us is prepared to share our story (if asked), we are reluctant to volunteer it.
We are not interested in expressions of concern or sympathy. We don't want to become "poster children" with a lot of focus on us.
Do you have any suggestions on how we might navigate through this, calling attention to the issue, but not ourselves?
-- Private Guys
Dear Guys: This is the first step! Thank you so much. I hope that your query will inspire men to be tested and to support one another. You and your friend can be a great resource to other men -- without drawing attention to yourselves.
Check out the work of the UsToo.org. This support group of prostate cancer survivors was started by five men in Chicago, and now has grown to a supportive national community. Join an online or in-person support group to communicate with other men who are going through this health challenge.
Dear Amy: Thank you for running the question from "Not Singing in Middletown, R.I." This person mentioned being chastised for looking at her phone during a theater simulcast of the Metropolitan Opera.
What I appreciated the most was when you corrected her for referring to the stagehands as "maintenance workers."
-- Opera Fan
Dear Fan: These skilled stagehands are very much part of the production. I love watching the set changes.
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