Daughter might not mature enough for street bike
You lost a close family member to a motorcycle accident.
Your mother has health problems, which are made worse by worry and stress.
Your mother has been very clear in describing the conditions regarding motorcycle ownership and you living at home. She is also providing (I'm assuming, free) housing, enabling you to buy your street bike on the sly.
You have all the information you need to have concerning how your choices would affect others, and so you decided to lie about your choices, but now you feel bad because your guilt is such a burden.
I can't take your guilt away. Your guilt about this is actually a gift. Your guilt is your mature adulthood come calling, and it is telling you to stop being such a baby.
The mature thing to do would be to sell this bike, use the money from the sale to hasten your move-out and then live your life however you want to -- telling the truth in the future and compassionately handling the consequences.
You won't do the mature thing, and so you'll have to do the harder thing, which is to be honest with your mother now, reassuring her every step of the way about your training and safety on the bike. Before you have this conversation, you had better line up other housing.
Dear Amy: Responding to the letter from "Sober Sally," whose mother-in-law had been drinking when watching Sally's baby -- wow you were way too easy on her!
My mother refused to use child safety seats in the car and would NOT childproof her house (she had a bottle of lye under the sink).
"We didn't do it when you were a kid and you turned out fine," she said. (I worked in a hospital and saw the results of childhood injuries).
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