Grieving dad wrestles with his rage
If I start traveling without her, I feel like I would need to hide this part of my life from her to protect her feelings.
Even worse, I have another friend, also obese, who also now wants to travel with me!
How can I handle this?
-- Active Traveler
Dear Active: Traveling with friends is often fraught with peril; and in this case, I feel like you are dangerously close to doubling down on the peril.
Given your condition and that of your friend's, you must have realized that being incompatible travel companions was a possibility.
You shouldn't blame another person for you not having enough fun or getting enough exercise on your vacation. I've been on enough vacations (and exercise regimes) to know that there is only one person responsible for your experience: you.
If you really want to end your travels with this person, then you're going to have to be honest, adult and respectful. Acknowledge that the trips aren't quite what you envisioned and that, for now, you would like to become a solo traveler.
Dear Amy: My blood started to boil reading the letter from "Devoted and Caring Parents," who wanted an exact 50-50 sharing of all holidays with their son and future daughter-in-law (whose parents are divorced).
The pressure these parents were exerting on the younger couple is neither "devoted" nor "caring."
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Horror stories of people running themselves ragged trying to please everyone on Christmas Day are flooding my inbox.
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