Should mom tell about teen's risky business?
We told them "no violent computer games" -- and they said, "That's a you problem" -- our 6-year-old son came home and told us he played a computer game where he shot women's heads off!
Finally, we told ourselves: "The grandparents are deaf to our requests, so no baby-sitting."
They just don't get it. Never have, never will.
-- Relieved
Dear Relieved: Parents have the right -- and the responsibility -- to raise their children according to their values and using their best judgment.
People who regularly take care of these children need to work very hard to respect the parents' judgment and reasonable guidelines.
When it comes to grandparents, I do think there is some room for grands to influence and guide their beloved grandchildren, but they should never do so in a way that undermines the parents.
Your in-laws are now facing the real consequences of repeatedly violating these reasonable guidelines.
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