Daily pot use has wife issuing third strike
At what point does one stop responding? Or does one?
He is apparently in counseling. Any suggestions?
-- Supportive Friends
Dear Friends: I don't see anything amiss with bringing up one's late spouse on Facebook. Doing so is like mentioning her name in conversation.
It sounds as if he has set up a "memorial page" and is posting and sharing from that page. If he is posting things she wrote during her lifetime, I think that sounds like a great idea. If he is responding in her persona, that's a little more troubling.
The beauty of Facebook is that you don't ever have to "like," comment, respond, or even look at anything that floats by on your Facebook stream. The fewer clicks and likes he receives, the less traction these posts will get.
I hope you will reach out in real life to talk to and spend time with this man. A grief support group might be helpful.
Dear Amy: You asked for feedback from people on how they divide the job of cleaning the dirty dishes in their household.
Like you, our rule is, "if you cooked, you don't have to do the dishes."
We think of this as a fair division of labor.
-- Happy in the House
Dear Happy: I like this balance, too. Many of us would much rather clean than cook.
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