Daily pot use has wife issuing third strike
I don't know what to do. I feel like it isn't even about the weed now, it's about the betrayal, lies, and the intentional hiding.
Am I crazy for wanting a divorce over weed?
-- Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: I gather from where your husband's stash was located that pot is illegal in your state. If so, it is reasonable to ask and expect your spouse not to engage in illegal activity.
But if pot were legal where you live, would you find it acceptable if he used it occasionally? And, importantly, would he be able to use it only occasionally?
His habit of hiding this from you might have triggered some binging behavior. Would he be able to use pot the way some of us have a glass of wine with a meal, and enjoy it without getting stoned?
People who use weed and get baked will deny how obnoxious and boring they can be, and how big an impact it has on their lives and relationships. It is no fun to try to have a life with someone who is unavailable, unreliable, impaired, and zoned out.
Your husband broke a vow he had made to you, and then he lied about it. If you look down the road and see nothing but more of this, then yes, you should probably leave. This is your version of: "Three strikes, I'm out."
Dear Amy: I have a friend whose wife died six years ago.
He frequently brings up his wife on his Facebook postings, and his wife continues to "respond" to his postings and post poetry on her website.
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