Man doesn't like woman, but wants to cohabit
So, what's wrong with you?!
You present yourself as the mature and appropriate adult, and so this begs the question: Why are you thinking of moving in with and forming a permanent attachment to someone you don't even like?
Normally when people complain about their partners, they try very hard to present something of a balanced picture of that person. You don't have one positive thing to say about your girlfriend. You obviously don't even like her.
I agree with you that you two shouldn't have children together. But you probably also shouldn't have coffee together.
She might in fact be a volatile harridan and you, a saint, but it doesn't matter, because you are obviously in a mismatched relationship with someone you don't like or respect. The good news is that you don't need to fix her, or this relationship, because you shouldn't be in it.
Dear Amy: Former co-workers contact me multiple times during the year to get together for dinner.
Other than the fact that we worked together, we have nothing in common. We don't know each other's families, have nothing to talk about and it's very uncomfortable.
I liked these people when I worked with them, but don't want to meet them any longer for dinner. How can I deal with this without offending anyone?
-- Former Colleague
Dear Colleague: You can start by turning down these invitations. You simply say, "I think it's great that everybody wants to continue to get together, but you should probably take me off the list for future dinners. Other commitments are starting to encroach upon my time."
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