Temporary breakup prompts friend's nasty text
Your friend should not merely offer to "bury the hatchet." He needs to personally and sincerely apologize to your fiancee for his choice to send a nasty message to her. He had many better choices he could have made in the moment to show his support for you.
Does your friend still believe that your fiancee doesn't deserve you? If so, he probably shouldn't stand up with you at your wedding. You and he should have an honest and private conversation about this.
You should encourage him to apologize personally to your fiancee. If he chooses to apologize, she should honor your longtime friendship by accepting his apology.
Dear Amy: My boyfriend is 66 years old and is a blue-collar worker.
He has a habit of making many comments to waiters and waitresses about their wages and tips, while they are serving us.
Here are some examples: "If you do a good job, maybe I will give you an extra $2 tip," or, "Your tie looks expensive; they must be paying you too much here."
This is embarrassing to me, and I think it shows disrespect to the server. Restaurant workers work very hard and don't need to feel belittled by idiot customers. They just chuckle when he makes these comments.
I have told him numerous times to stop doing this.
How should I handle this situation? Should I apologize for him? I don't want to punish myself by stopping dinners out. He thinks I am overreacting and he says he is just clowning. The bizarre thing is that his granddaughter is a waitress and he is very proud of her.
-- Frustrated
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