Man and his mate might be mismatch
If she doesn't get the job, I will be the one picking up the pieces.
-- Arizona Husband
Dear Husband: It sounds as if your real gripe is with your wife's preoccupation with this job change. I assume that she is distracted at home and talking about it often.
Your job is not to remind of her of the downside at every turn.
You need to listen, ask relevant questions and also let your wife know that her preoccupation with this is affecting you. ("Honey, this issue is taking over. Can we change the subject for a while?")
You should be supportive and in her corner. Nothing else is required.
If your wife does not get the job, you should not be picking up the pieces -- she should.
Dear Amy: "Working Hard, Hardly Working" complained about how hard it is to concentrate on his work when friends interrupt him at the coffee shop, which he seems to use as his office.
He has no basis for complaining; he is in a public place! If he doesn't want to run into people, he should stay home.
-- Working Hard
Dear Working Hard: Touche.
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