Victimized granddaughter seeks compensation
Dear Amy: I was not allowed to date any boys until college. I feel bad now, but I had some secret relationships when I was younger.
Now that I am older, I have an official boyfriend. He has met my family, and they love him.
Sometimes my parents and older siblings make comments that make it seem like my current boyfriend is my first boyfriend.
I feel like I'm keeping something from them. I fear that one day (maybe at my wedding) someone will make a speech about how this was my first boyfriend ever and the audience will be mixed with confusion and cheers.
My boyfriend knows this whole story and he thinks I should tell them. I don't want to shatter the image they have of me, be angry with me or think any less of me.
Should I tell them?
-- Worried
Dear Worried: I'm hoping that your family members aren't taking bets on your virginity, and that this is about a basic prohibition regarding relationships.
You say that you weren't allowed to date until college.
I assume that you are now out of college.
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