One-night stand brings on ethical dilemma
Is there a way to politely refuse to serve as hostess? Should I put my hurt feelings aside in the name of friendship?
-- Feeling Bitter in Boston
Dear Feeling Bitter: Here is how you politely refuse this request: "I'm honored you asked me to host this shower, but unfortunately I can't do it. I'm so excited for Barbara, I hope this pregnancy goes smoothly for her, and I wish her the very best."
Dear Amy: "Upset" was overly concerned about going with his wife to meet with a group of high school friends, including one she'd had a very brief relationship with.
His wife told him to "get over it." She should have at least validated his feelings.
Gentle validation ("I'm sorry you're upset, but this is nothing for you to worry about") would work better.
-- A Reader
Dear Reader: I agree. Thank you.
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