Grieving husband deserves sympathy
You have the right to maintain and protect your privacy any way you choose, but please understand that this will not shield you from well-meaning questions and curiosity. You should be prepared to deflect it with politeness: "It is nice of you to ask, but I don't want to discuss it. Thank you for understanding."
Dear Amy: I liked your advice to "At a Loss," who wanted to exclude her mother from her own wedding.
I had an identical experience and handled it exactly as you suggested, by assigning a friend to basically monitor my mother at the wedding, and be prepared to escort her home, if necessary.
Everything worked out fine!
-- Been There
Dear Been There: No solution is guaranteed, but I'm happy this worked for you.
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