Husband sends marriage to the dogs
It is surprisingly easy to fall in love with someone at a distance. You two always and only present your best sides to one another. Staying in love with someone up close is considerably more challenging, however.
You trust her because you are in love with her, but you don't actually know everything about her. In fact, her entire construct might be a fiction.
My first suggestion is that you take your rational explanation -- that you cannot move to the U.S. to be with her -- and apply it very honestly to your relationship. If you can visit, you should. If you two can't manage to meet in person very soon, then you should call it a day and focus more closely on the prospect of loving a woman in your home country.
Dear Amy: "Sad Mom" is a bipolar woman in a troubled relationship with her daughter, who is also bipolar.
Please point readers toward the National Institute of Mental Health for information and support.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Definitely. Thank you. NIMH is an invaluable resource. Readers can get information on their website: nimh.nih.gov.
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