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Ask the Pediatrician: How do I explain shootings and other disturbing news to my children?

Dr. David J. Schonfeld, American Academy of Pediatrics on

Published in Health & Fitness

Q: How do I talk to my children about shootings and all the other violent acts in the news lately?

A: After any major act of violence that dominates the news, families struggle with what they should say to children to help them cope with the information.

The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents, teachers, child care providers and others who work closely with children to present information in a way that children can understand, adjust to and cope with.

No matter what age or developmental stage children are, parents can start by asking what they’ve already heard. Most children will have heard something, no matter how old they are. After you ask them what they’ve heard, share with them basic information, ask what questions they have and how they feel about the situation. Remember that children may have very different worries and concerns than adults, so find out what bothers them first before offering reassurance.

Older children, teens and young adults might ask more questions and may request and benefit more from additional information. But no matter what age the child is, it’s best to keep the dialogue straightforward and direct.

In general, it is best to share basic information with children, not graphic details. Keep young children away from repetitive or graphic images.


With older children, if they are going to watch the news, consider watching it together, recorded rather than live. That allows you to preview it and evaluate its contents before you sit down with them to watch it. Then, as you watch it with them, you can pause and have a discussion.

Many children have access to the news and graphic images through social media and the internet right from their smartphones. You need to be aware of what’s out there and take steps in advance to talk to children about what they might hear or see.

It’s also important to ensure you aren’t being too vague. Simply saying, “Something happened in a faraway town and some people got hurt,” doesn’t tell children enough about what happened and whether they need to be concerned about this happening to them or their family.

Children may not understand why this is so different from people getting hurt every day and why so much is being said about it. The underlying message for a parent to convey is, “It’s OK if these things bother you. We are here to support each other.”


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