On the eve of a milestone birthday, a reminder that life changes everything

Ruben Navarrette Jr. on May 7, 2017

A few weeks ago, in a pre-birthday ritual, I made two lists. The first was of the things I valued, sought and cared about when I was halfway down this road. The second was of the things that I value and care about now.

And, for those of you who've lived a life and traveled around the block, it won't surprise you to hear that the lists were nothing alike. Not a single item was the same. Not one.

Twenty-five years ago, I was chasing money, fame, power, influence, excitement and access. I wanted to be at the center of the action, and bask in the bright lights of a big city. I cared about building a resume and grabbing every opportunity.

As I turn 50, I care that my children are safe and healthy, and that they have a bright and meaningful future. I hope that my wife and I are raising good people who are "-ful": thankful, grateful and thoughtful. I crave stability, even as I work hard to provide for my family. I strive to have a positive impact on people's lives, as I continue to do what I love. And I care about family and friends, and having enough time to enjoy both.

Life changed everything. And I have a new appreciation for the lyrics of the Bob Dylan classic "My Back Pages." As I think about what I used to obsess over, I realize that: "I was so much older then. I'm younger than that now."

This gives me clarity, perspective and peace of mind. And those things make for great birthday presents.

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Ruben Navarrette's email address is ruben@rubennavarrette.com.