My Answer

on Nov 12, 2026

From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham

Q: How can my husband and I raise our children on a firm foundation when life is crumbling even in our beloved America? And should parents be friends to their children or disciplinarians? – F.C.

A: Oh, that all parents would place God at the center of family life in all things. Families need to walk with God daily, studying and memorizing Scripture and learning of Him. Not a day should go by without fellowship around the Word of God. Together the family should “read, mark, learn, and inwardly digest” the Scriptures as an essential preparation for daily living.

The family draws strength from linking together the study of God’s Word, prayer, obedience, and fellowship. This helps build a foundation that will protect us from a world gone mad. “These words which I command you today shall be in your heart … teach them diligently to your children … when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up” (Deuteronomy 6:6–7, NKJV).

Children do need the guidance of their parents, and we guide them more by the example we set than by any other way. We need to be firm and sane and fair and consistent – and, above all, we need to discipline in a spirit of love. Many children are growing up without discipline. When they become adults and the discipline of job or family demands are placed upon them, they do not know how to cope. Children need discipline to be useful members of society.

Fellowship within a church community is also important. When brothers and sisters in Christ unite in the common bond of the Word of God and prayer, they’re strengthened in their faith and witness. The support of others is especially helpful when suffering comes. We must encourage one another and build each other up in the faith (see 1 Thessalonians 5:11).

(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)