Why must people use such foul and vulgar language?

on Jan 20, 2024

From the writings of the Rev. Billy Graham

Q: Why must people use such foul and vulgar language? And it isn’t just horrible language, but the harshness of people’s thoughts on the news and internet causing such angst. Why is this? – P.E.

A: Bitterness is an attitude of deep discontent that poisons our souls and destroys our peace. Few have spiritual or emotional roots. They’ve been deprived of values by an agnostic and contemporary culture. Harsh words can’t be taken back, and no apology can fully repair the damage. Today, people seem quick with the deadly thrust but slow with the ointment of healing. The harsh criticism of others and unfair appraisals of those about us may hurt them, but it hurts us more. The unjust condemnation of others has a boomerang effect. We hurl vindictive indictments with the hope of crippling others.

Many people are conflicted today because they are driven away by their own bitterness and harsh words to those who may need a kind word. Many people go through their entire lives with a chip on their shoulder, carrying hurts and resentments over things that were said or done decades ago. Like a poison, their bitterness has made not only their own lives miserable but the lives of those around them. They have never learned the secret of forgiveness and forbearance.

The Bible warns us to be on guard “lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble” (Hebrews 12:15, NKJV). Meekness and forbearance are “musts” if we are to live harmoniously in society and develop healthy homes, families, and friendships. While Christians must always speak the truth, we must do it in love. The Bible tells us to “speak evil of no one, [be] peaceable, gentle, showing all humility to all” (Titus 3:2, NKJV).

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(This column is based on the words and writings of the late Rev. Billy Graham.)