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Ask Amy: Manager is getting menaced at work

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I am a manager at my job.

Last June, a new employee transferred from a different unit. She was very upset the first couple of days. She also had a fear of reporting to her new supervisor (not me) because she thought she “looked mean.”

I explained how I manage and how our team works. She was appreciative.

She started bringing me breakfast in the morning. I asked her to stop several times, but she continued to bring me food gifts and other types of gifts, leaving them on my desk. This was completely unwanted.

Again, I asked her to stop, but this continued.

In December, she got promoted. I was elated because she would be gone from my area and I wouldn’t have to deal with it anymore.


However, she has started to visit my office when I’m not there and leaving me little gifts. Again, I asked her to stop.

Last week she made a surprise lunchtime visit to my office, which is in a totally different building on a different side of town.

She drove all the way over to where I work to “say hi.” I told her I appreciated this, but that I needed to get back to work.

She said she felt disrespected and then wrote me a very long email saying that she didn’t understand why we couldn’t be friends and was wondering why I keep rejecting her.


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