Ask Amy: Wife seeks distance from husband’s crimes
– Wedding Dilemma
Dear Dilemma: Many couples suggest causes for their wedding guests to donate to in their honor. Clinics offering abortion services also offer many other important reproductive health services to women.
If you don’t condemn this couple’s stand on abortion, then surely you wouldn’t condemn their choice to donate their own money toward supporting a clinic.
And if you give them money for their wedding gift, this money will no longer be your money, but their money, to spend as they choose.
In lieu of cash, you could give them your Aunt Bertha’s old gravy boat, but they could then turn around and sell it and donate the proceeds.
My point is that you don’t have the right to control where the gift you give to them lands.
A gift card to a local restaurant or establishment that aligns with their interests (aside from abortion services) might make you feel better.
Dear Amy: “Modern Day Greta Garbo” expressed the desire for weeks of solitude, away from her husband.
Your answer was terrible!
Marriage is about being together. Do I sometimes want to be away from my husband of four decades? Of course! But we’re married.
You never even took her husband’s wishes into account.
– Upset
Dear Upset: My answer offered several ways for her and her husband to work this out, so, of course, she needs to discuss this with him and take his wishes into account.
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