Ask Amy: A long marriage is now on the ropes
You are not invited to initiate sex. You should initiate counseling.
If you two separate, my sense of this is that you might be made out to be the “bad guy,” no matter the actual circumstances.
You should consider whether you are willing to be held hostage by your wife’s anger.
Dear Amy: I am a retired woman, living alone. I inherited a box of very old photos, well over 100 years old.
At the bottom of the box, I found a dozen small, beautifully framed “adult” photos.
While I am certain that these were hardcore for their time, they are quite tame by modern standards, featuring partial nudity, unlaced bodices and rolled stockings.
The most seductive photo is of a bride getting a romantic kiss on her wedding night.
I was immediately taken with these lovely images, and so I grouped them together to display in my bedroom, which is a very private room in my home. (I am a retired woman living alone.)
As soon as she saw them, my older sister began insisting that I take them down, because "people will think you're gay, or some kind of pervert.”
I pointed out that anyone in my bedroom knows me well enough to know the truth of me, and who cares what anyone else thinks?
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