Ask Amy: A guest waffles on potlucks and raffles
However, publicly calling someone out for not bringing a dish is just plain rude – unless the comment is delivered thoroughly in the spirit of communal good fun.
There is no one rule about how to host a gathering, but guests should always feel special, welcome, and valued – and not just for their three-bean salad.
That’s where your friend has faltered.
Dear Amy: I’m asking about an aggressive version of a familiar issue.
I am in my mid-20s and at the age where I am being invited to weddings of friends. Some are close friends, others not so much.
I work in local media, and, as you may know, make a measly wage. We in local media work on short-term contracts and tend to move frequently.
One of my friends in the field, who often shares my financial woes, is likely getting married early next year. (We do not live in the same part of the country.)
This friend has made it clear that they do not want to hear anything about guests not being able to attend their wedding due to living too far away, or not having enough money.
This friend quite literally (and aggressively) stated this over a text message.
This person has been OK as a friend, but is not my closest.
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