ArcaMax

I suggest that you create a “rule” for his email address, and send any email from him straight into a folder. (You should also check with your company’s HR/IT department regarding any further attempts to connect with you through work channels.)

This allows you to occasionally check to see if he is persisting or escalating. It will also provide evidence of his contact in case you become concerned enough to pursue legal action.

Print out any emails (along with the header, listing his email address). Check your state’s laws regarding filing for a restraining order for cyberstalking.

Doing this research now will prepare you if he escalates and you feel threatened.

Dear Amy: I had my DNA tested, as have some of my second cousins, and in one case the results are disturbing.

One cousin's paternal grandfather and my maternal grandmother were siblings, but our percent-DNA match is above the feasible range for second cousins and centered on the range for first cousins once removed.

My matches with six other cousins with the same great-grandparents (they had nine kids) are smack in the middle of the normal range.

Long story short (having researched DNA results interpretation for other reasons), this cousin’s supposed grandfather is probably actually his biological father. Looking at his online family tree, my cousin was born in 1945, his father served overseas in the navy during WWII, and his grandfather lived in the same town as his mother.

Am I right in not bringing this up nor discussing it with him or anyone else?

It doesn't really affect his or his kids' genetic health history.

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