Ask Amy: A new diagnosis inspires important questions
If you can’t find one that fits the relationship in a way that feels comfortable to you, you could send a generic card and write a message: “I appreciate the role you have in our family. Happy Mother’s Day.”
Dear Amy: You advised “Just the Facts,” who wanted information on his wife’s long ago lover, to leave it be.
Presumably her lover was prior to their 57-year marriage.
What if, as in my case, my wife had a lover in the early stages of our 54-year marriage?
We have never discussed any details of this affair, but it often is in my thoughts.
Do I try to obtain information from her now, or leave it be?
Infidelity can be explained, but not undone.
– Forever Haunted
Dear Haunted: Yes, I heartily encourage you to open up to your wife. Expressing your own vulnerability might inspire her to do the same.
A therapist could help to guide this conversation.
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