Ask Amy: A potential parent ponders the possibilities
Once in a blue moon some will leave a note or a couple of coins laying on the floor.
With summer vacation plans being formulated now, please remind your readers to acknowledge the housekeeping staff.
– Cinderella
Dear Cinderella: My theory is that anyone who has ever worked in the service sector tips generously.
I’m happy to remind everyone to do the same.
Dear Amy: I thought that your response to “Reluctant Grandma,” (the grandmother who didn't feel comfortable hosting a baby shower for her son and his partner due to the fact that they weren't married) was mean spirited and unfair.
The grandmother has every right to her feelings and or beliefs and she shouldn't have been made to feel bad or put down as you did.
She can respectfully decline to host the shower without that adversely affecting her love or future relationship with the child.
What happened to you being able to respect and understand her feelings and perspective?
You were really hard on her.
I hope that your response didn't make her change her mind.
– Upset
Dear Upset: I hope my response – harsh as it was – did make her change her mind. My intention was not to pressure this grandmother to host a shower. I was hoping to actually change the way she is thinking about and framing the birth of this child into her family.
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