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I think my son should know. After my ex and I are dead, he or one of his children may have a medical issue where he needs to know the facts of his conception.
I am in a quandary and have no idea what to do.
Your advice?
– Mom
Dear Mom: You feel strongly that your son should know the truth behind his conception (I agree).
You are not able to get his father to participate in this important conversation, but you are his mother, and so you should go ahead and tell him.
I believe that knowing the truth of your DNA is a human right.
Your son might greet this news with shock, disbelief, and sadness. He might face a challenge wondering how he relates to his father and siblings. He might choose to shelve this topic permanently – or pick it up later.
Open the door, and keep it open. Let him walk through. Answer every question truthfully, and offer your continued support.
The Donor Sibling Registry (https://donorsiblingregistry.com/) offers an array of tools and information for donor conceived people and their families.
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