Ask Amy: Marrying woman worries about who will pay
You say that your interactions with women friends never affected your time with Alyse, and yet they did, because these relationships brought forth so much insecurity.
Regardless, she laid down her non-negotiables and then followed through. That’s the whole point of an ultimatum.
I suspect that if you had given in, other underlying and serious issues would have surfaced. I suggest that you move on.
Dear Amy: It is hard to fathom you stated the following in response to a reader regarding tipping:
“I do agree that the whole experience is upside down: restaurant workers are underpaid, and consumers are expected to foot the bill.”
Of course consumers will foot the bill! “Footing the bill” will be either via tips directly to those who serve us or higher restaurant prices if owners are required to pay more to employees.
It may be time for a refresher econ class.
– Reader
Dear Reader: Great point! I should have noted that entrusting a server’s income to consumers instead of employers might be one reason for the staff shortage in restaurants.
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