Ask Amy: Marrying woman worries about who will pay
Dear Amy: My ex-fiancée, “Alyse,” dumped me because I have women friends. There was nothing other than friendship. My interactions with them never affected my time with Alyse, and I was always transparent.
Even so, Alyse made an ultimatum that I drop my women friends, which I refused, and after a while, she ended the relationship.
Part of the problem is Alyse had been seeing a therapist who told her that I "have women friends to feed my ego,” that I "prey on insecure women,” and that I had “an asexual love relationship” with one friend.
Her therapist also discouraged Alyse from going to couples counseling with me when I proposed it.
Other than that issue, our relationship had been amazing.
We don’t talk now, which is partly my fault, because I, regrettably, blew up when she ended things.
However, I miss her like crazy and wonder if I should have given in to her demands, and if there’s any way to reconnect.
Do you have any suggestions?
– Missing Her
Dear Missing: It is hard to imagine a therapist advising against joint counseling, unless with an abuser. “Alyse” may have misrepresented her therapist’s views.
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